So, I've realized that it's going to be mostly my Beth Moore bible study that will inspire me to write these entries but hey at least I'm thinking about the content!
Once again, this will be a long post. I need to write more often so they will be shorter instead of keeping a list :) Ok, so first thing's first. You know the phrase, "Love is blind." Well, I've been thinking: Is that a good thing? Yes, I think that when we love someone (note: love being all kinds of love, not just romantic) we are more inclined to gloss over the maybe more interesting facets of their personalities :p We tend to love the whole person and because we love them accept their annoying habits. BUT if we are soooooo in love (note: obsession, more on that later) you can be completely blind and look past BAD things. Think an abused woman. Sometimes they state, "oh, he doesn't really mean to hurt me. He loves me." While the rest of us are screaming "LEAVE HIM NOW" to our television sets (which are probably on Lifetime if we are watching shows about battered women). I guess, in summary, I don't think I ever want to be blinded by love. I don't want to love someone to the extent that I can't see all of them. Does that make sense? I want to love them enough that I will put up with some things, but not enough that I can't call them on their crap :) Ok, back to the obsession note. Maybe the kind of love that I'm talking about can be called obsession. It doesn't matter what they do, they have to have it. Like a drug addict. It doesn't matter that it is ruining their lives, they have to get their fix. We could describe a a bad relationship like that. A friend who always takes and never gives, but the person who isn't taking anything can't seem to leave that relationship.
Complete subject change
Manipulation. As the stereotype goes, I am female, so I manipulate. I think I do fit the stereotype to some extent. The question was posed in the study if you manipulated a situation even after you were out of it. Yes, I know I have. I remember in junior high manipulating things so that I could be close to a boy I liked ( who most likely didn't know my name, hahah) But why do I feel the need to be in control all the time. Even at work I pretty much refuse point blank to let anything go unnoticed. Just ask my co-workers :) Obviously, the situation isn't working, yet we still pick and manipulate. We need to let it go!!
Last subject change, promise! So you know that whole honor your mother and father thing. ( i have a feeling they are going to come up in this blog a lot!) Well, I've found a way to do that. I have no qualms about having a guy roommate. I wouldn't mind living with a guy that I knew to save rent. We aren't talking living together like with a boyfriend, but just a male. A completely platonic relationship. XY chromosome. My mother absolutely point blank thinks NO. Not that my parents would disown me if I did have a male roommate BUT We won't get into all that but I've decided that a way to honor her is to honor her wishes and never have a guy roommate no matter how convenient, even though I would be ok with it.
Enough rambling....
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