In the real world, at least the real world in our culture, we’ve become accustom to huge and sweeping romantic epic. We expect huge proposals, elaborate weddings and a storyline that most woman would cry if they read it. But when exactly did this shift take place? Didn’t it used to be marriages were strategic alliances for families, countries, and royalty? Again, not that I’m complaining. I’d like to pick my own husband, thank you very much. Was our culture “Disney-fied” at some point? If you ask anyone, including me (not that I’m getting married currently, haha), why are you marrying this person you will get a common answer in some way or another. Love. I love him/her. I can’t imagine life without her/him, etc.
Even in the Bible a lot of the marriages you read about are political. I mean Adam and Eve were married, but they were kinda the only option. Yes, there are love stories in the Bible. (Ever read Song of Solomon?) But I want to know where our American romantic expectations meet real life. Marriages are hard work. (Or so I’ve heard!) Where does God’s plan fit into all this? Yes, I think God loves us so much He wants us to be happy and loved by our spouse, but it’s not like I can think of scripture at the moment that says, “Marry your spouse because you love them” So I guess my basic question is when/what prompted the move of marriage from an alliance where love could grow, to love that makes you want to form an alliance.
I guess I do expect that someday I will “be in love” and will get married according to God’s plan for my life. But is this sweeping epic love we think of today part of the love God wants us to experience.
I think I’m rambling now. I hope you understood some of that!
*Cue the song “A Whole New World”
~~~which by the way, I do plan on playing at least once at my wedding J
